It is totally deliberate. To use this feature subscribe to Mumsnet Premium - get first access to new features see fewer ads, and support Mumsnet. We have a strong-willed eight-year-old son that occasionally wets his pants (once every two to three months when he's too busy playing and the like). It sounds like the wetting is a general problem if she's doing it at nursery. Secondary diurnal enuresis is daytime urine leakage that occurs in a child who has been potty trained and has successfully stayed dry for minimally three months, notes Dr. Lane Robson, clinical associate professor at the University of South Carolina’s School of Medicine. While frustrating and inconvenient, it is not necessarily a problem. She brags about it afterwards and one of the times this morning she immediately did it after I said she couldn't have chocolate before lunch. The nurse uses video game-based exercises that your child controls using pelvic floor muscles. Sometimes fightful behaviour is about control. She doesn't poo herself at the moment but I wouldn't put it past her to try that too! Eg. Telling them off for wetting is seriously counter-productive, but making it into a huge boring faff with a cold shower to boot certainly did the trick for mine. Have been positive and not make a thing of it when accidents happen. 3 year old won't take medicine! Please note that as a peer-to-peer discussion board, Netmums has not checked the qualifications on anyone posting here. Haha yes the white lie could be an idea! Also he is incredibly chilled out so even when he is awake (when he's not being fed or changed) we do jigsaws, watch tv together, read books while he goes in his jumperoo or sits on the floor next to us. To comment on this thread you need to create a Mumsnet account. I know everyone says not to punish accidents and I agree but these are not 'accidents'. Would she love to go in a nappy again? We started potty training our son over a year ago and in the beginning, as expected, there were accidents. the other day he stood in the bathroom staring at his mom while he peed his pants. It's been nearly 3 weeks since it started and I've had enough. Does she poo herself too? If the docotr says nothigns wrong then take him into a therapist /physical therapist to help him learn to control his bladder /his muscles. The teachers ask her regularly if she needs the toilet but she always says no. She's also not bothered about wearing wet pants. It is most common among young school-aged children. Desperate for advice. A. She can be really lovely for example when her baby brother is crying she'll give him a cuddle and say 'I'll look after you'.Can anyone shed any light or give just a bit of advice? Create a schedule for your child to urinate at least every two to three hours during the day, even if she doesn’t feel like it. Make sure your child knows that daytime wetting is a temporary problem, and that you are there to help. Thanks for your reply. So he asked me that rather loudly so two of his companion friends heard it and stared my way. Her behaviour in general had been shocking of late too. Sometimes he threatens othertimes not. Does she go to pre school? Really hoping we've made some progress today because I'm totally shattered with this. She has been potty trained for almost 2 years now however she has wet herself twice in the last few days. My ds sleeps well during the day and we nearly always play a game together during this time. From behaviour to bedtimes, school choices to screen time, this is the place to talk all things child-related. Make sure your child is eating a healthy, fiber-rich diet and drinking lots of fluids. I also have a 3 month old. My 3 year old has been potty trained for over a year but hasn't gotten to the point where he can tell me when he has to pee. Now, she is wetting her pants daily. Ignoring the accidents and praising the good times. 'Reconnecting' with her has actually been really lovely and I think we're all more happier for it (She's still no pooing enough though - but that's another thread). The Healthy Bladder Center at Cincinnati Children’s provides comprehensive treatment for children with daytime wetting issues. 3333 Burnet Avenue, Cincinnati, Ohio 45229-3026 | 1-513-636-4200 | 1-800-344-2462. It may be her very crude way of communicating and if you give words to how she feels perhaps it will pass. Daytime wetting is when a child who is toilet trained has wetting accidents during the day. How We're Keeping You Safe | What Patients & Families Need to Know. Biofeedback can teach your child to how to relax their pelvic floor muscles so that they can empty the bladder completely while on the toilet. We never really found a solution to her withholding or pooing herself. A. If these tests come back normal, the doctor may refer you to a pediatric urology practice for an evaluation. ... Not on purpose it just happens. I felt horrible for him, told him it would be okay, changed him and sent him back to bed. Physical Factors. She had a bout of flu type illness lasting 2 weeks and she seemed to forget about withholding and suddenly starting going to the toilet daily with no problems. 'You've had a few accidents today and I think maybe you feel jealous of the attention the baby is getting/you wish you still had nappies like baby. She does dress herself in the morning and choose her clothes. This type of pediatric incontinence occurs less frequently than nocturnal bed wetting; it typica… Never an accident up until a few months ago. She just started Kindergarten last week. He is the same at home or nursery. A lot of fightful behaviour is also routed in anxiety - which may or may not be related to the wetting. He has been potty trained for almost a year. But it does get better I promise. The good news is that treatment is available. Basically the title. If your community does not have such a specialty clinic, consider taking your child to a pediatric urology provider. If it is genuine a definite defiant wetting, then I would take the approach of making it difficult for her. My wife and I are getting fed up because we have a 5 year old boy too and we can't explain to him why his almost 12 year old brother does this. Hi. It is life with 3 year olds. Daytime wetting (sometimes called “diurnal enuresis,” or “daytime urine accidents”) is twice as common in girls as it is boys. boy poop his pants on purpose he was thinking. OnceaGoth Sat 08-Feb-14 03:43:32. Put her back in pull ups. However, if I wait too long, or if he is in the midst of something (like watching TV) he will just pee in his pants. Might be worth ruling that out for sure. Use a sticker chart to track your child’s trips to the bathroom, and reward progress. I've tried to completely ignore the wetting but she will go for hours in wet pants and she's started to get a rash from being wet all the time. I know it's deliberate as I tried 4 days of completely ignoring it and after an hour or so of leaving her in her wet clothes and pretending not to have noticed she will say 'look at that, it's wee' with a smile on her face.I feel like she's trying to get attention or control of some sort but I play with her a lot of the day, we go out for walks, read books etc. Having a soft bowel movement every day is very important in preventing daytime accidents. Also, keep in mind that about 15% of children age 5 or older actually stop wetting the bed each year. However, she started urinating on herself at 3 1/2 years of age. It is definitely attitude here. I'm totally at my wits end with having to tread on eggshells around her. If it makes you feel better, she really won't remember this time in her life, although you will (tell her when she is moaning about her children). I also have a defiant and protest-weeing almost 3 year old who has a new 5 month old baby brother. Your first post about difficult behaviour and deliberately weeing is very similar to my 3y.o. Primary schools back sooner than expected? 4 year old wetting himself on PURPOSE!! Hi Ladies, I am looking for some advice with regards to my 3.5 year old son, he has been potty trained for nearly a year now and dry at night for almost 6 months. Learn more about bed-wetting. Sometimes emptying her entire bladder, sometimes, just enough to wet her underwear. his mother had a baby about 8 months ago and I am currently 8 months pregnant. Just a couple quick questions before I transfer you. He then made a massive improvement and used the toilet on a regular basis without any problems. If he does not get his way and has tried everything else he will threaten to wet his pants. Here are some of the factors that might lead to a potty trained child wetting pants: 1. We use a 5, 2 and 1 minute warning system for when we're going to change activity. Please help. Prosecutor: Group of adults beat, burned 3-year-old for wetting himself. In fact I try to give her as many choices as possible throughout the day so she can have an element of control e.g. Could she wear little or no clothes in the house, so she can't get them wet? Now it is more frequent, almost everyday and night now. My four year old little girl has been potty trained since the week prior to her turning three. I'm still not convinced it will be totally deliberate. I just don't know what I'm doing wrong to raise such an unhappy child. Your child’s pediatrician will provide a complete physical and run some simple tests to rule out problems such as diabetes or a urinary tract infection. She did have a few accidents previously because she is just lazy and if she's playing she doesn't want to stop to go to the bathroom, but it was few and far between. She was better this afternoon but I think that's because I showered her in kindness and played games with her when she didn't wet herself. Make all of you happier in that respect.The behaviour could be 3yo behaviour it could be she's more high maintence. Attention seeking. Hi All, I havent been in for a while, but was hoping to get some advice in relation to my 5 year old DD. Our little boy is 7 months now so I can't see that it's related. my 3 year old son has been potty trained twice--when he was 2 and right before he turned 3. after being happy to use the toilet for months without accidents he suddenly has no desire to make it to the toilet and continually wets his pants. It's been really quite awful (low point was inserting suppositories to get her to poo - distressing for everyone). The most important thing you can do is be patient and understanding. weetabix or cornflakes, pink bowl or green bowl etc. He goes through phases of managing to stay completely dry and then will have days on end where he seems to be wet constantly. I feel totally broken and exhausted trying to figure out why she behaves so badly and wetting herself constantly. Then SHE needs to dry herself and find and put on new pants. Hope it improves soon. During biofeedback, a specially trained nurse places stickers on your child’s belly and buttocks. 3 year old with high temperature: HELP My 7 year old son keeps touching himself. We always say what were going to do and talk about things. – Kai Qing Feb 5 '15 at 1:29 My 3 year old dd has always been a handful since birth. It was a good thing there was no-one in the next garden looking over, or they would have seen a strange sight, an 8 year old boy crouching down and deliberately messing himself. It's difficult, because you don't want to make it an issue which grows. Some children couldn't care less about reward charts. I would put her in a pull up for journeys and trips out to save buggy and car seat. “When I meet a child who is wetting the bed, it’s twice as likely to be a boy. Then wash her bottom half in the shower set on freezing cold. he pees in his bed all the time even when he is not a sleep and he just tells me he felt like it and not there is no abuse of any kind going on Can anyone help me???? I agree there is more than anything an emotional imbalance going on but I don't know what. I would also calmly change her as soon as she has an accidents. You can promote healthy bowel movements by making sure that your child: Your child’s doctor may recommend stool softeners or laxatives to help ease constipation. My husband and i went away for 1 night 2 weeks ago and this wetting seems to coincide with that. Read what Mumsnetters thought of Cicaplast B5 repairing balm, Share your tips for keeping your children’s skin comfortable through the winter months, 3 year old wetting herself purposely and other behaviour problems, Talk widget showing discussions of the day & trending threads, Subscribe to Mumsnet emails direct to your inbox. I think it's not unrelated to the fact that DS is starting to show typical terrible two behaviour so she's recast herself as the well behaved one . The whole potty training process was a nightmare- completely filled with a battle of wills. My two ds (now 13 and 9) were both later potty trainers, both being over three, and it took ages, and a return to nappies before ds2 could poo in a pot. No symptoms other than just peeing himself. It's really not worth the battle of her doing as she's asked if the choice gets it done.Same with getting out of the house - shoes or coat on first etc. The poor boy played very happily with the lid of a jigsaw box today while we did our own thing! Slightly better this morning. Children sometimes dread going to school or social activities because they fear having an accident. About 3 months ago he wet the bed. A. I am feeling for you and all that washing. Personally I don't believe that a child wetting themselves is ever from "defiant" behavior, but rather from some sort of emotional unbalance and that it's the parent's responsibility to figure out what is actually going on because a 3 year old can't tell you. If so it could be attention seeking, especially if she does it when you are feeding. Thanks x. Treatment options for daytime wetting include medication, biofeedback and healthy bowel habits. A child who suddenly starts wetting pants after they have been trained might have a physical reason for doing so, such as a urinary tract infection, diabetes, or gastrointestinal issues, like constipation. My 2 1/2 year old doesn't believe toilets exist, so who knows. The kids started with my mum and dad who they love but I can't help but feel that this is like some form of guilt tripping! Statistics say this happens in about 3 to 4 percent of children, particularly school-aged girls, and we see a lot of cases of this at Children’s Hospital Los Angeles. Most likely this will clear up on it's own ,but it is better to get a medicla opinion first. My potty trained 3 1/2 year old is wetting herself on purpose...? Thanks for the replies. I'm hoping she's realising that I'm not going to back down on this! Has the wetting restarted since her brother was born? He hasn't used the bathroom … perhaps she is using peeing as a way to feel she has some power and control. i try to be rea I am getting to the point where I want to agree with my wife and put him back in diapers. I also put her on the naughty step when she deliberately wet herself. The latest thing is to purposefully wet herself. Communities > Child Behavior > My 3 year old is wetting himself. My kid wets his pants on purpose. Everyone's different, but I'd say 3 isn't old enough to worry. Daytime urine accidents for more than two or three days in a row, Daytime urine accidents once a week for two months or more, Are older than 4 years of age and were previously dry for six to nine months, Small amount or trickle of urine when urinates, Squats or grabs genitals to prevent urinating. Apologise profusely for the temp, and state that on big girls only cold will do to get all the wee off. Before you try to correct this behavior, you should rule out any medical or psychological causes. We talk about being happy and sad and what makes us feel that way so she does have some emotional intelligence and the words to express it. Should I be alarmed? Ideas??? It is not uncommon for children who are toilet trained to wet their pants from time to time. I can't put up with all this washing and cleaning anymore. With a 5 year old, he is old enough to know better as well - if the doctor has cleared him of a UTI, I would by all means take away his favorite toy or games and tell him that he can have it/them back when he can be a big boy and not wet his pants. My DS2 is 9 and he wets the bed, this is not a problem, he wears a pull up nappy to bed and we are being supported by a clinic. My 7 year old son in the last two weeks has decided that he pee himself at school He has a speech delay and I know he has been having problems at school. If she's waking up in the morning in a foul mood, maybe she needs more sleep. Your child may need to take medicine for several months to years. She usually stays dry at school (peed one time at school), but urinates on herself at home. However, some children may start wetting themselves down the road. go to the shops, get out of the bath so she can mentally prepare herself for change. The routine of making sure she sits on the toilet before bed, even if she says she doesn't have to go, may be what did it for her. I found that at that age it helped to tell my dd what was going to happen to her before doing it. 3 year old wetting herself at nursery constantly. E.g. Lots of changes at home and possibly less drinks/ stickers for weeing on toilet. Once she's back in dry clothes, continue your day as before and don't mention it again. She would go through better or worse phases, but it lasted a long time. Your little girl must be 6 by now? 4 year old wetting herself :( at wits end!!! My 3 year old daughter who has been potty trained for about a year now is all of the sudden "peeing on her pants" as she puts it. © 1999-2020 Cincinnati Children's Hospital Medical Center. And don't help her. She can simetimes wake up in the morning in a foul mood refusing to speak or even look at us. How did it all pan out? Answer (1 of 1): Take him to a doctor and see if he has a medicla problem with his bladder/kidneys. My dd took a v long time to train to know when she needed to go. For some reason I gave my secret away to them and him by saying …NO but I do. Some children who have daytime wetting also wet the bed. About 3 to 4 percent of children between the ages of 4 and 12 have daytime wetting. Help your child relax and not rush while urinating. With us it's around withholding poo, which started after potty training (successfully for wees almost straight away). I realised I really haven't done that since I was heavily pregnant and DH has been her 'go-to' person since then. I'm fed up of being stuck at home because she wets the car seat, buggy, other people's houses. 9 year old wetting himself on purpose (2 Posts) Add message | Report. Close Child Behavior Community 14.3k Members My 3 year old is wetting himself amacat. I am losing the will to live. i'd try the find things to reward not punish route before the battle escalates. Hi Original poster! Commonly prescribed medicines include Ditropan, Detrol and Enablex. She was eventually potty trained in Jan this year just before turning 3. Many children who have daytime urine accidents have a parent or other relative who did, too. This can help the bladder hold more urine. she wakes up and doesen t wnt to get up and pee at night so she lays in bed and wets herself and totally soaks her sheets and pj pants . My 3 year old son started wetting himself again. Don't make a big deal but don't leave in wet pants either. 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